Last week I was very, very distressed to hear that the adoption of Andrew and Oliver would not be happening. For a number of reasons the family could not continue. They are devastated.
When I first was told, so many emotions went through me, but grief was largely on top. You see I had wanted to adopt Andrew. I had dreams of him and could see him in my family so clearly. I'm sure I completely shocked my husband when I suddenly announced that I wanted us to adopt a 5 yr old orphan who was blind.
I had simply never felt so strongly about something before in my life. So sure, so positive...I felt upbeat, happy and the world was a beautiful place. Confidence was brimming.
Sure we didn't have the money for adoption, nobody to watch our children for weeks while we traveled, I hated flying and had never been on a plane longer than 2 hours, got horrible motion sickness and had even had bouts of vertigo in the past, and knew nothing about blindness, but none of that meant a thing. I could be Andrew's mother, my children would be his siblings and we would share our small home, our family happiness and our love with him. No longer would he cry for a caring touch, no more hours spent in boredom wearing too small clothes, all that could change, all he needed was a family and we could give that to him.
But we couldn't. My husband did not want another child, let alone a blind child. I will be honest, very honest, I was MAD, angry and very resentful. How dare this man, that I loved so, pop my bubble of happiness! Did he not realize a child's life was at sake here?
Thankfully I was not the only one that loved Andrew and a family stepped forward for him, my heart was light. He could not be my son but he would be a loved son and brother.
Now that is gone. And still I cannot get him.
Both Andrew and Oliver are stil waiting and without a family on the way they will probably be transferred to an older children's orphanage soon. There are some very good orphanages and sadly, some not so good ones. Please pray if they are transferred it will be to a good one.
Currently the boys are at the same orphanage and between them have a $14,000 adoption fund. Adoptions from their country normally run around $25K. So a family would need only around $11,000 to get them both!
Please pray, donate to their funds and advocate. These boys deserve the same love and care that we all do.